Make a Plan, Pack a Bag

It can take more than 7 times on average for domestic violence victims to leave, often leaving in such a hurry that they leave key items at home that would help them get on their feet to being a survivor more quickly.  If you are considering leaving, there are steps that you can take to get yourself prepared to have most of what you need to start your new life.

While this list is not comprehensive, it is a good starting point for packing a safety bag:

– driver’s license
– passport
– social security card
– birth certificate (s), marriage license, any other key documents
– medicine
– change of clothes for each person leaving
– cash (if possible), try to have at least one credit card and debit card in your name only before leaving
– car keys
– key addresses and phone numbers of safe people
– something cozy – maybe a blanket, a stuffed animal or a sweatshirt

The truth is the first days after leaving feel scary and are when victims are most likely to return home.  This is why it not only important to gather the legal documents that you will need, but also at least one item that will give you a bit of security during uncertain times.  It could be something as small as a rock that helps you feel grounded by holding it in your hand or a stuffed animal that you can shed the tears of relief as well as fear.  While it may be scary, you will not be alone.

Control Alt Delete removes the barriers that often keep people in unsafe domestic violence environments.  We bridge the gap in services and help in that immediate time of need providing one time assistance with services such as gas gift cards, cab rides, bus tickets, hotel rooms and new locks and security measures for homes where Survivors will be staying.

Thank you to blog contributor Allision B.